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Sexual Violence 

Domestic/Family Violence 

Sexual Violence 

Domestic/Family Violence 

Sexual Violence 

Domestic/Family Violence

Sexual Violence 

Domestic/Family Violence

We understand that what you’ve experienced is incredibly difficult, and it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. Whatever you’re feeling right now is valid.

How Trauma Affects Your Body and Brain:

Experiencing sexual  or intimate partner violence can be traumatic. During a traumatic event, and after, your brain and body automatically go into “survival mode” to protect you when you sense that you are in danger-  this is not something you can control. These responses, such as Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, can stay with you even after the danger has passed

Fight: You may have felt a sudden urge to defend yourself, becoming aggressive or trying to physically fight back.

Flight: You might have felt the need to escape, whether by avoiding eye contact, freezing up, or trying to get away from the situation.

Freeze: You might have felt unable to move or speak, as your body shut down to protect you.

Fawn: You might have tried to please or appease the person hurting you, hoping to avoid further harm.

These responses are normal and natural.

What happened is not your fault; however, your responses to it were valid. Your brain and body did what they thought would keep you safe.

What to Expect Mentally

After experiencing sexual or intimate partner violence, your brain may process memories differently. This might make your memories feel unclear or broken up. It’s normal to have gaps in your memories or find it hard to remember certain details. You could also experience flashbacks, where it feels like the trauma is happening all over again. These experiences are your brain’s way of trying to make sense of what happened to you. Be kind to yourself.

What to Expect Emotionally

It’s normal to feel a mix of strong emotions right now.

Hypervigilance: You may feel on edge or like you need to stay alert, even in safe situations.

Mood Changes: Feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, or shame may come and go, sometimes unexpectedly.

Disconnection: You may feel numb or distant from yourself or others as your brain tries to protect you from overwhelming emotions.

These reactions are all part of healing. Your brain and body are working through the trauma, and it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.

Physical Changes and Caring for Yourself

While we want to assure you about normal changes that can happen, you know yourself best. If something feels wrong or doesn’t improve, please reach out to your doctor.

Vaginal Discharge or Bleeding: Some discharge or bleeding is normal. If it seems unusual or lasts too long, contact your doctor.

Burning, Itching, or Soreness in the Genital Area: This is common. Try warm baths, and keep the area clean and dry. If it doesn’t improve, contact your doctor.

Burning or Painful Urination: Drink fluids, especially cranberry juice. If pain lasts more than a few days or if you see blood, contact our doctor.

Soreness or Bruising: Bruises might get worse in the first few days. Use a cold compress for the first 24 hours, then warm baths. Over-the-counter pain medications can help.

Pain During Bowel Movements: This can last up to 10 days. Drink water and eat fiber-rich foods. If you notice bleeding, contact your doctor.

Mouth Sores: Gargling warm salt water can help mouth sores heal. Avoid spicy or acidic foods until it improves.

You are Healing

Healing takes time, so be patient with your mind and body- rest and self-care are important parts of recovering. If you have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to reach out to the FNE/SANE Coordinator, your doctor, the Sexual or Domestic Violence Outreach Services, or someone you trust. You deserve to be heard, cared for, and supported.

Always remember: this is not your fault, we believe you, and you’re not alone.